I am taking a Sabbatical from blogging for a few days as I am frightfully busy and quite gloomy because my nineteen year-old son leaves for college in a few days... I will be back soon, ready to drown my sadness in writing after he leaves. Despite the many mother-son moments which one recalls nostaligically and humorously only when the kid is back in school, the house certainly becomes desolate in his absence after having been home for three and a half months. Relationships with these half men and women who presume to have all life's answers are both taxing and yet enlightening as to how despite their outward persona as growing adults, they will always remain our babies regardless- throughout their lives. Letting go is tough and yet that is what we must do...
It is almost hilarious how my son's faithful basset hound switches loyalty immediately and astutely because he realizes the man whom he considers the leader of the pack is gone and now he is dependent on this cranky and no-nonsense lady to feed and walk him. Who says canines are incapable of manipulative behaviour! Less cynically, somehow animals know when they are really needed because the welcome nuzzling of a cold wet nose demanding attention begins soon thereafter as if to tell me that he is there instead- just like Polo is doing right now as I type...
Polo decides to become my best friend when Baku is at college - he has no choice!
Polo, our basset, sitting in the study next to my chair.Yes -summer for me is essentially over!
Be back later!
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I know exactly how you feel!!! I am right there with you.
When the first one left, two years ago I was devastated. This summer she didn't move back in! Ahhhhh...
Enjoy your few days off! :)
First I just wanted to thank you for your kind words about kitty. They meant a lot. We hope to get test results back tomorrow.
I can't imagine kids leaving home. After so many years of having them underfoot it must be really hard. Honestly I can't imagine it. Can't wait for you to come back.
Thank you both for your kind words.It is very rough and I think having just one child makes it a harder. I know that right now I am driving my son crazy by being extremely cloying and clinging...
After six I am more than ready to have the last one out of the house. :) It' nice to have them close by but I am now worn down.
Oh my! I too am a single mom, with one child, a son . . . so I know exactly what you mean! My son is only a sophomore in High School, which means he already knows everything (or so he thinks), but he is definitely my buddy on life's adventures. I think I learn as much from him as he does from me. I will miss him when he goes off to college, to be sure. . .but my most burning question will be: Who will troubleshoot my electronic gadgets for me?!? - AC
Red -regardless of the number of kids, I think I would have been sad at each kid leaving home. I think it is a mom thing...
AC -that is also my most burning question as to who will be taking care of all my handy man stuff around the place because when he is around, he does it all. Needless to say I am already making him take care of many loose ends before he leaves...
I also have an only child, a daughter. And instead of going off to college, she went off to the Navy. After she signed up, she changed her mind, and although it ripped me apart to do it, I insisted that she honor the commitment she had made. Dropping her at the recruiting office when it was time to leave for basic training was traumatic. And she has been on two six-month cruises in the Persian Gulf.
I must say, although it makes me feel guilty, that we are enjoying our empty nest. My husband is not her biological father, and it's so much easier not to feel torn between the two of them......
Now she has her own place in Florida, but we speak almost daily. It's so hard to turn loose and admit that she's grown......
I hope this is a nice welcome back from your sabatical. I nominated you for a couple of awards. Please stop by my site when you get a few minutes and pick them up. Hope you had a nice break.
Summer is over? Oh, I wasn't ready for that bit of news.
http://organizeddoodles.blogspot.com/
Interesting to know.
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